"Unfortunately, performance requirements exist in many human relationships, and the factor is called "conditional love." As long as one person can generate those warm, fuzzy feelings in another, love prevails, but when events interfere with or eliminate the fuzzy feelings, love disappears. And that is the point; for many, love is just a feeling, sometimes maintained over a period of time, sometimes quite temporary. In other words, it is the feeling that is loved, not the person. If the relationship interferes with one's pursuits or satisfactions in other areas (the "I want to be me" syndrome) it can be scrapped and disposed of."
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude; it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.....It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."
(I Corinthians 13: 3, 5, and 7)
From Lessons in Lifemanship by Bryan Bell
19. juni 2006
Love in Islam
"The concept of love has intrigued mankind since our very creation. Stories of love have been found in all societies, past and present. It’s found in poetry and literature (Shakespeare, H. D. Lawrence), in pop culture (songs, movies, operas).
The love for our parents is one of the first emotions we feel. Throughout our lives we love countless things. But if you ask a group of people what love is, they’ll all have a different answer. History is full of Literature and anecdotes explaining and describing love. In truth, the definitions of love are exhaustive. Everyone has a different explanation of love, because there really is no one definition for it.
There are many different types of love. The love for one’s Mother and Father is different from the love for a spouse. The love for people and animate objects is different from our love for Allah and Islam. And these different forms of love are also accompanied by different ways of expression.
As a Muslim, our feelings of love should be governed by the duties and beliefs of Islam. The perfection of love is our love for Allah."
The love for our parents is one of the first emotions we feel. Throughout our lives we love countless things. But if you ask a group of people what love is, they’ll all have a different answer. History is full of Literature and anecdotes explaining and describing love. In truth, the definitions of love are exhaustive. Everyone has a different explanation of love, because there really is no one definition for it.
There are many different types of love. The love for one’s Mother and Father is different from the love for a spouse. The love for people and animate objects is different from our love for Allah and Islam. And these different forms of love are also accompanied by different ways of expression.
As a Muslim, our feelings of love should be governed by the duties and beliefs of Islam. The perfection of love is our love for Allah."
Freedom to Love
...
"The concept of love is clearly expressed in the Quran. God has specifically and precisely used the word "love" along with twenty three of its different Arabic derivatives to teach us that love is a normal, logical and realistic feeling which coincides with our gift of freedom. With God's freedom of choice, we are free to prefer or be inclined towards certain things, people, morals, certain talents, etc. Favoring, preferring and making certain choices demonstrates our love."
...
"If God's love was unconditional, it would defeat the whole purpose of our existence on earth and would contradict His gift of freedom granted to us. His love would serve as a green light to commit all kinds of evil. There would be no straight or crooked path, no point behind any clear commands, because God's love would be awaiting at the end of the road to save us all. This is a myth about God that is based on conjecture and ignorance.
It is our duty as believers and submitters to seriously study the boundaries set for us in the Quran in order to pursue love in a safe and constructive manner - the manner that would please God alone within His guidelines and make us earn His love and compassion."
"The concept of love is clearly expressed in the Quran. God has specifically and precisely used the word "love" along with twenty three of its different Arabic derivatives to teach us that love is a normal, logical and realistic feeling which coincides with our gift of freedom. With God's freedom of choice, we are free to prefer or be inclined towards certain things, people, morals, certain talents, etc. Favoring, preferring and making certain choices demonstrates our love."
...
"If God's love was unconditional, it would defeat the whole purpose of our existence on earth and would contradict His gift of freedom granted to us. His love would serve as a green light to commit all kinds of evil. There would be no straight or crooked path, no point behind any clear commands, because God's love would be awaiting at the end of the road to save us all. This is a myth about God that is based on conjecture and ignorance.
It is our duty as believers and submitters to seriously study the boundaries set for us in the Quran in order to pursue love in a safe and constructive manner - the manner that would please God alone within His guidelines and make us earn His love and compassion."
Love (Hubb) in Islam
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"This is the love in Islam. No words can define it. It's something so enigmatic, that only Allah could design it and He alone comprehends it. Wonder of wonders, it is beyond man's conception. Only in Allah can love find true perfection, for love is enduring, patient and kind. It judges all things with the heart, not the mind. Love can transform the most commonplace into beauty and splendor and sweetness and grace. Love is unselfish, giving more than it takes, being unconditional and unhampered by environment. Love never forsakes, it's faithful and trusting, truthful. It is guileless and honest and never deceiving. Love is Allah's Divine Gift."
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"On the other hand, there is the love of the world. Love of the world leads to a stage where a person can not see anything but the world before it, after it, and along with it. Every thought and action is for some worldly gain. Such a person cannot devote himself to pious deeds for more than a few days. It is reported that this world is like sea water. The more one drinks of it, the more one gets thirsty."
Text by Khalid Dhorat (Mawlana
"This is the love in Islam. No words can define it. It's something so enigmatic, that only Allah could design it and He alone comprehends it. Wonder of wonders, it is beyond man's conception. Only in Allah can love find true perfection, for love is enduring, patient and kind. It judges all things with the heart, not the mind. Love can transform the most commonplace into beauty and splendor and sweetness and grace. Love is unselfish, giving more than it takes, being unconditional and unhampered by environment. Love never forsakes, it's faithful and trusting, truthful. It is guileless and honest and never deceiving. Love is Allah's Divine Gift."
...
"On the other hand, there is the love of the world. Love of the world leads to a stage where a person can not see anything but the world before it, after it, and along with it. Every thought and action is for some worldly gain. Such a person cannot devote himself to pious deeds for more than a few days. It is reported that this world is like sea water. The more one drinks of it, the more one gets thirsty."
Text by Khalid Dhorat (Mawlana
Marriage in Islam
"Allah further states that He has also placed in addition to mercy, love between spouses. It should however be noted that Islamic concept of love is different from the more commonly understood romantic love so valued in the Western cultures.
The basic difference is that love between man and woman in the Islamic context can only be realized and expressed in a legal marriage. In order to develop a healthy avenue for the expression of love between man and woman and to provide security so that such a loving relationship can flourish, it is necessary to give it the protection of Shariah (Islamic law).
Marital love in Islam inculcates the following:...
Accepts: To love someone is to accept them for who they are. It is selfishness to try and mould someone as we wish them to be. True love does not attempt to crush individuality or control personal differences, but is magnanimous and secure to accommodate differences."
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From an article by by Shahina Siddiqui
The basic difference is that love between man and woman in the Islamic context can only be realized and expressed in a legal marriage. In order to develop a healthy avenue for the expression of love between man and woman and to provide security so that such a loving relationship can flourish, it is necessary to give it the protection of Shariah (Islamic law).
Marital love in Islam inculcates the following:...
Accepts: To love someone is to accept them for who they are. It is selfishness to try and mould someone as we wish them to be. True love does not attempt to crush individuality or control personal differences, but is magnanimous and secure to accommodate differences."
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From an article by by Shahina Siddiqui
18. juni 2006
Love as an Object of Right Desire, Mortimer Adler
"However, when we say that we love the truth, or when we interpret the word "philosophy" etymologically as signifying the love of wisdom, we are departing from the understanding of love as benevolent desire.
We may admire truth or wisdom; we may even pursue the truth or seek wisdom as objects of right desire; but we are not impelled to act benevolently toward them. Our impulse to make the truth available to mankind or to increase its store of wisdom may be a benevolent concomitant of our great admiration for truth and wisdom, but that benevolence flows from our love of humanity, not from our love or truth or wisdom."
From the essay LOVE AS AN OBJECT OF RIGHT DESIRE,
by Mortimer Adler, Ph.D.
We may admire truth or wisdom; we may even pursue the truth or seek wisdom as objects of right desire; but we are not impelled to act benevolently toward them. Our impulse to make the truth available to mankind or to increase its store of wisdom may be a benevolent concomitant of our great admiration for truth and wisdom, but that benevolence flows from our love of humanity, not from our love or truth or wisdom."
From the essay LOVE AS AN OBJECT OF RIGHT DESIRE,
by Mortimer Adler, Ph.D.
Att ha eller att vara, Erich Fromm
"Kärlek har också två betydelser, allt efter som man rör sig inom ägandets eller varandets livsform. Kan man ha kärlek? Om vi kunde det skulle kärleken vara ett ting, en substans som man kan ha, äga, besitta. Sanningen är att det inte finns någon sådan substans. Kärleken är en abstraktion, kanske en gudinna eller ett främmande väsen, men ingen har någonsin sett denna gudinna. I verkligheten finns det bara kärlekens gärningar. Att älska är en produktiv verksamhet. Det innnebär att ha omsorg om, att väl känna, vara mottaglig för, bejaka, ha glädje av: en människa, ett träd, en målning, en idé. Det betyder att bringa till liv, att öka hans/hennes/dess livaktighet. Det är ett självförnyande och självutvidgande skeende.
När man upplever kärlek inom ägandets livsform innebär det att stänga in, fängsla eller behärska det föremål man "älskar". Det är förstummande, kvävande, dödande, inte livgivande. Det som människan kallar kärlek är oftast ett missbruk av ordet, som är avsett att dölja det rätta förhållandet, nämligen att de inte älskar. Det är en öppen fråga hur många föräldrar som verkligen älskar sina barn. Lloyd de Mause har visat att det i västerlandets historia under de två sista årtusendena finns så många rapporter om grymhet mot barn, från psykisk och fysisk tortyr till vanvård, härsklystnad och sadism, så uppseendeväckande att man drivs att tro att kärleksfulla föräldrar är undantaget i stället för regel."
Från boken "Att ha eller att vara", av Erich Fromm
När man upplever kärlek inom ägandets livsform innebär det att stänga in, fängsla eller behärska det föremål man "älskar". Det är förstummande, kvävande, dödande, inte livgivande. Det som människan kallar kärlek är oftast ett missbruk av ordet, som är avsett att dölja det rätta förhållandet, nämligen att de inte älskar. Det är en öppen fråga hur många föräldrar som verkligen älskar sina barn. Lloyd de Mause har visat att det i västerlandets historia under de två sista årtusendena finns så många rapporter om grymhet mot barn, från psykisk och fysisk tortyr till vanvård, härsklystnad och sadism, så uppseendeväckande att man drivs att tro att kärleksfulla föräldrar är undantaget i stället för regel."
Från boken "Att ha eller att vara", av Erich Fromm
6. juni 2006
Kärlek är stark, Ebba Grön
Kärlek är stark, kärlek är stark,
kärlek är stark, kärlek är stark.
Vill du bli min tjej? Ja jag älskar dej.
Om du säger kärleksord
så ska jag ge dej allt,
allting jag kan ge.
I det svarta, i det grå
är det du som ger mej hopp.
Viska om den tyst till mej.
Kärlek är stark...
Vi midnatt svischa runt
i stjärnors mörka ljus.
Du tar mej in i dej.
I ljudet av oljudet
ger vi varann allt.
En snäcka som sluter sej
om mej, i dej.
Viska om den tyst till mej.
Kärlek är stark...
Vill du bli min tjej? Ja jag älskar dej.
Ser du djuret i mej?
Om styrkan finns i dej just då
vill jag för fan veta.
I det svåra, i det hårda,
där bara du kan ta mej upp.
Viska om den tyst till mej.
Kärlek är stark, kärlek är knark.
kärlek är stark, kärlek är stark.
Vill du bli min tjej? Ja jag älskar dej.
Om du säger kärleksord
så ska jag ge dej allt,
allting jag kan ge.
I det svarta, i det grå
är det du som ger mej hopp.
Viska om den tyst till mej.
Kärlek är stark...
Vi midnatt svischa runt
i stjärnors mörka ljus.
Du tar mej in i dej.
I ljudet av oljudet
ger vi varann allt.
En snäcka som sluter sej
om mej, i dej.
Viska om den tyst till mej.
Kärlek är stark...
Vill du bli min tjej? Ja jag älskar dej.
Ser du djuret i mej?
Om styrkan finns i dej just då
vill jag för fan veta.
I det svåra, i det hårda,
där bara du kan ta mej upp.
Viska om den tyst till mej.
Kärlek är stark, kärlek är knark.
Bara lite kärlek, Lisa Nilsson
Bara lite kärlek tidigt när man vaknar
är mera värt än kaffe när man ska börja dan
Bara lite kärlek när hela världen lider
och du vaknar upp och känner att allt kan bli bra
För vår värld vore ej så hård
den vore ej så svår
om alla i den bara kunde få
lite mer kärlek...
Bara lite kärlek redan när man vaknar
några varma kyssar som räcker hela dan
Inget gör en morgon, riktigt väcker dagen
så som lite mer kärlek
från någon man älskar, som du
För vår värld vore ej så hård
den vore ej så svår
om alla i den bara kunde få
lite mera kärlek innan dagen börjar
lite mera kärlek tidigt när man vaknar
Bara lite kärlek från den man älskar...
Bara lite kärlek när man vaknar...
Inget gör en morgon som lite kärlek...
Inget väcker dagen som lite kärlek...
Bara lite kärlek...
Bara lite kärlek...
Bara lite kärlek...
Bara lite kärlek...
är mera värt än kaffe när man ska börja dan
Bara lite kärlek när hela världen lider
och du vaknar upp och känner att allt kan bli bra
För vår värld vore ej så hård
den vore ej så svår
om alla i den bara kunde få
lite mer kärlek...
Bara lite kärlek redan när man vaknar
några varma kyssar som räcker hela dan
Inget gör en morgon, riktigt väcker dagen
så som lite mer kärlek
från någon man älskar, som du
För vår värld vore ej så hård
den vore ej så svår
om alla i den bara kunde få
lite mera kärlek innan dagen börjar
lite mera kärlek tidigt när man vaknar
Bara lite kärlek från den man älskar...
Bara lite kärlek när man vaknar...
Inget gör en morgon som lite kärlek...
Inget väcker dagen som lite kärlek...
Bara lite kärlek...
Bara lite kärlek...
Bara lite kärlek...
Bara lite kärlek...
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