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par Sonia Rochel

Born to Love

"As Valentine’s Day approaches, people are especially eager to connect with the perfect partner—and hold onto him or her for good. This is nothing new; mankind has searched for aphrodisiacs for centuries. The ancient Romans slurped down oysters, the Chinese swore by shark fin soup, and the Arabs were keen on camel’s hump.

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Psychologists maintain that the dizzying feeling of intense romantic love lasts only about 18 months to—at best—three years. Yet the brains of these middle-aged men and women (Led by neuroscientist Bianca Acevedo, our team searched for people who said they were still wild about their longtime spouse. ) showed much the same activity as those of young lovers, individuals who had been intensely in love an average of only seven months. Indeed, there was just one important difference between the two groups: Among the older lovers, brain regions associated with anxiety were no longer active; instead, there was activity in the areas associated with calmness."

By Helen Fisher | February 1, 2010 for The Greater Good  Science Center

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Gratitude is for Lovers

"I had one goal when I started graduate school five years ago—to understand why some romantic relationships thrive while others fail. I also had one primary hypothesis—that relationships fail when partners begin to take each other for granted. And I thought: If taking each other for granted is the poison, then gratitude might be the antidote.

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In research by Sara Algoe and colleagues, grateful couples were more satisfied in their relationships and felt closer to each other. And in our research, we found that participants’ reported feelings of gratitude towards a romantic partner predicted who would stay in their relationships and who would break up nine months later. The more grateful participants were, the more likely they were to still be in their relationship.

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It’s important to say that gratitude isn’t always the answer—and it can sometimes hurt you. Our research is focused on understanding what factors promote the maintenance of healthy relationships that may be experiencing a bump in the road. Gratitude is good if the relationship is good."

By Amie M. Gordon | February 5, 2013 for The Greater Good Science Center

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THE WAR ON MEN THROUGH THE DEGRADATION OF WOMAN

JADA PINKETT-SMITH: 

"How is man to recognize his full self, his full power through the eye’s of an incomplete woman? The woman who has been stripped of Goddess recognition and diminished to a big ass and full breast for physical comfort only.

The woman who has been silenced so she may forget her spiritual essence because her words stir too much thought outside of the pleasure space. The woman who has been diminished to covering all that rots inside of her with weaves and red bottom shoes.

I am sure the men, who restructured our societies from cultures that honored woman, had no idea of the outcome. They had no idea that eventually, even men would render themselves empty and longing for meaning, depth and connection.

There is a deep sadness when I witness a man that can’t recognize the emptiness he feels when he objectifies himself as a bank and truly believes he can buy love with things and status. It is painful to witness the betrayal when a woman takes him up on that offer.

He doesn’t recognize that the [creation] of a half woman has contributed to his repressed anger and frustration of feeling he is not enough. He then may love no woman or keep many half women as his prize.

He doesn’t recognize that it’s his submersion in the imbalanced warrior culture, where violence is the means of getting respect and power, as the reason he can break the face of the woman who bore him four children.

When woman is lost, so is man. The truth is, woman is the window to a man’s heart and a man’s heart is the gateway to his soul.

Power and control will NEVER out weigh love.

May we all find our way.

J"

Keep up with Jada on Facebook at facebook.com/jada

Duo Osmose "Sensual version"

Event for the show 'Ohlala' by Knie circus in Zurich.
With Ludivine Furnon and her new partner Martin Charrat.

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Solar Plexus er porten til ditt hjerte

Vi åpner veien til vårt hjerte når 

• Frykt omdannes til Kjærlighet og vi føler oss trygge, i kontakt, anerkjent og verdige.

• Når energien i vårt sinne gjøres tilgjengelig for konstruktiv handling og vi kan gå fremad og manifestere vår selvvalgte skjebne.

• Tristhet slippes fri gjennom overgivelse og vi går fra maktesløshet til indre stillhet. Når vi slutter å bekjempe oss selv.

Adi Shakti Kundalini Yoga Skolen, Oslo

Kjærligheten er ikke for amatører

Ti regler for kjærligheten og det gode forholdet:

Først må du elske deg selv
Et kjærlighetsforhold er et valg
Kjærlighet vokser langsomt
Kjærlighetsforhold skaper grobunn for vekst
Kommunikasjon er grunnleggende
Forhandlingsvilje er et krav
Forandringer er utfordringer
Et godt kjærlighetsforhold krever godt stell
Fornyelse er nøkkelen til et langt samliv
Du kommer til å glemme alt dette når du blir forelsket
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Å elske deg selv er den beste måten å lære hvordan du skal elske. Kjærlighet er handling som krever en viss forståelse, ferdighet og evne. Når du praktiserer kjærlighet overfor deg selv, oppøver du noe som bringer deg til neste nivå - å elske en annen. Det er bare når du mestrer kunsten å ta vare på dine egne behov at du kan vite hvordan du skal tilfredsstille andres. Når du respekterer retten til egne tanker og følelser, kan du vise andre den samme respekt. Når du helt oppriktig synes at du er verdifull, da først kan du virkelig vise hvor glad du er i partneren din.
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Har du en målestokk for hvordan du vil bli behandlet, har du en ballast som kan holde deg på rett kurs. Krever du respekt, vennlighet, omsorg og integritet, vil enhver annen oppførsel som ikke stemmer med det, blir åpenbar. Aksepterer du deg selv for den og det du er, vil du gjenkjenne alle som ikke gjør det. Har du en grunnfestet oppfatning om hvem du er, kommer du aldri til å befinne deg i et forhold som setter deg i fare. Selv om du vil glemme alt dette når du blir forelsket, kan du kalle det fram igjen og våkne opp fra din drømmeliknende tilstand ved å huske hvem du er.

Et utdrag av boken etter Chérie Carter-Scott

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How do you play your role?

Kofi Annan states: "Artists have a special role to play in the global struggle for peace. At their best, artists speak not only to people; they speak for them. Art is a weapon against ignorance and hatred and an agent of public awareness… Art opens new doors for learning, understanding, and peace among people and nations."

How do you play your role? What is your role? Are you aware of it? What do you say? To whom? Why? When? Who do you speak for? Or to? What door are you trying to open? Are you working for peace? Do you stir up minds? Emotions? Order? Or do you design wall paper? Why? Why not? What do you do? Do you do? Do you care?

Love and Intimacy

Love is a basic emotion. It comes in a variety of forms. Most scientists distinguish between two kinds of love -  passionate love and compassionate love. Passionate love is a "hot", intense emotion. Compassionate love is a "cooler", far less intense emotion.

While passionate love is intense, it is generally very fleeting. Researchers have looked at how relationships progress among new couples, newlyweds and those married for a longer time and found that while passionate love is more intense at the beginning of relationships, it tends to give way to compassionate love that is focused on intimacy and commitment.Passionate love may be quick to fade, but compassionate love endures.

By Elaine Hatfield