En selvfølelse av kjærlighet

"Studien viser at selvfølelsen er en nøkkelindikator for hvordan folk oppfatter partnerens anerkjennelse og følelsesmessige støtte.

Menn og kvinner med lav selvfølelse følte seg for eksempel mer elsket på dager da de hadde suksess på skolen eller på jobben, ifølge studien.

Som den rake motsetning til dette, oppfattet både menn og kvinner med høy selvfølelse at partnerens kjærlighet var betingelsesløs."

Av: Andreas R. Graven, Journalist
23.jul 2006

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Kissing under the mistletoe

The Norse god Balder was the best loved of all the gods. His mother was Frigga, goddess of love and beauty. She loved her son so much that she wanted to make sure no harm would come to him. So she went through the world, securing promises from everything that sprang from the four elements--fire, water, air, and earth--that they would not harm her beloved Balder.

Leave it to Loki, a sly, evil spirit, to find the loophole. The loophole was mistletoe. He made an arrow from its wood. To make the prank even nastier, he took the arrow to Hoder, Balder's brother, who was blind. Guiding Holder's hand, Loki directed the arrow at Balder's heart, and he fell dead.

Frigga's tears became the mistletoe's white berries. In the version of the story with a happy ending, Balder is restored to life, and Frigga is so grateful that she reverses the reputation of the offending plant--making it a symbol of love and promising to bestow a kiss upon anyone who passes under it.

How Justified Sinners Love Each Other

"My aim is to gather up some wonderful fragments of relational Christian life from Romans 12 and call you to live them out in love to each other this year in small groups – as well as all the other ways that you relate to each other.

And when I say "each other" I am thinking not only of those who are already here, or in your circle of acquaintance or even the circle of Christianity. I am thinking also of those who will become part of the "each other" from outside your circle and from outside the faith. The term "each other" in a Christ-like, loving church in a large metropolitan center like the Twin Cities is never static. It is always changing and growing. It is a sign of serious spiritual sickness in this city and this church if your circle of friends is static."

By John Piper. © Desiring God

The Color of Love

For some folks the color of love is
Red ... fiery and hot,

For others the color is
Blue ... placid and calm,

For some it's
Yellow... caring but cautious,

For others it's
Orange ... rich and fruitful,

For some the color is
Lavender... gentle and kind,

For others it's
Purple... sacrificing and giving,

For some it's
Green ... with its go, go, go,

For others the color is
White ... pure and undefiled.

But for me the color is
Rainbow ... Red and Blue,
Yellow and Orange,
Lavender and Purple,
Green and White.

The Rainbow painted by God
is a symbol of forever-love,

And as long as there is
sunshine and rain
there will always be Rainbows,

And as long as there are Rainbows
there will always be
forever-love for you.

Dick Innes © Copyright

Color Of Love

I was lonely
I needed someone to see me through
I was at the end of my rope
I needed someone to cut me loose

And then an angel out of the blue
Gave me the sense that i might make it through
And somehow I survived with no rhyme or reason
And now I know I'll make it through the miracle of you

I know the color of love
And it lives inside of you
I know the color of truth
It's in the image of you
If it comes from the heart
Then you know that it's true
It will color your soul like a rainbow (Like a rainbow)
And the color of love is in you

Colors, the colors, the colors, the colors of
Colors, the colors, the colors, the colors of
Colors, the colors, the colors, the colors of
Love, love, love

Like a bridge
Over troubled, troubled water
You stood beside me, stood beside me
And your love did not falter

And then the angel, the angel in you
Gave me the strength to know that I will get through
And that's how I survived, ain't no other reason
And now I know I'll make it through the miracle of you

I know the color of love
And it lives inside of you
I know the color of truth
It's in the image of you
If it comes from the heart
Then you know that it's true
It will color your soul like a rainbow (Like a rainbow)
And the color of love is in you (Is in you)

Colors, the colors, the colors, the colors of
Colors, the colors, the colors, the colors of (It's the colors)
Colors, the colors, the colors, the colors of
(Oh...oh...oh...oh...oh...oh...)
Love, love, love

So girl, I wanna thank you
I can't thank you enough
For showing me the meaning
The meaning of true love

When i was lost and so in need
You opened up your heart
When I needed you to comfort me
You opened up your arms

I couldn't face another day
You said, "Don't be afraid"
You showed my heart the,
Showed me the way

I know the color of love (Hey, hey, hey, hey, ho ho, ho)
And it lives inside of you (It lives in you)
I know the color of truth (Oh...whoa...ho...)
It's in the image of you
If it comes from the heart (Comes from the heart)
Then you know that it's true
It will color your soul like a rainbow
And the color is in you

Colors, the colors, the colors, the colors of (Oh)
Colors, the colors, the colors, the colors of (It's the colors)
Colors, the colors, the colors, the colors of
Love, love, love

Oh...the color of you


Artist: Boyz II Men Lyrics

Love Is A Rainbow

And love is a rainbow curving down from the sky
Falling crystals of colour, shades of warm that never die
Red melodies burning still lead me to the night
And sing about the sights that they are sighing
Silver shadows returning, dazzle with desire
now freezing in a fire, they are flying

And love is a rainbow curving down from the sky
Falling crystals of colour, shades of warm that never die
Brown cascades are flowing, tinged upon your skin
Like strings of violins they are playing
Green breezes are blowing, cooling songs of tone
Now dancing in a moan as they are swaying

And love is a rainbow curving down from the sky
Falling crystals of colour, shades of warm that never die
Oh the yellow of the flowers, petals everywhere
Showing how to share the dreams of dawning
Blue fades in the hours, swallowed by the wine
To still the hands of time until the moring

And love is a rainbow curving down from the sky
Falling crystals of colour, shades of warm that never die

By Phil Ochs

Rainbow Love Poems

We shall find the cube of the rainbow,
Of that there is no doubt;
But the arc of a lover's conjecture
Eludes the finding out.

Emily Dickinson

Kids' Ideas About Love

"No one is sure why it happens, but I heard it has something to do with how you smell. That's why perfume and deodorant are so popular."
Mae, age 9


"Don't say you love somebody and then change your mind. Love isn't like picking what movie you want to watch."
Natalie, age 9


"It's love if they order one of those desserts that are on fire. They like to order those because it's just like how their hearts are - on fire."
Christine, age 9